I’ve joked a lot about my online dating woes here, but I know deep down that online dating can work.
And one of my closest friends in real life met her husband on JDate, and he is one of the most amazing men I’ve ever met.
Since I’ve been on OkCupid for 10 months now with no luck – mostly receiving messages from socially awkward men that just aren’t my cup of ANYTHING – I decided to take matters into my own hands by making the first move.
Yes, you heard that right – I went ahead and
stalked checked out a few OKCupid profiles with the hopes of messaging a man I found interesting, funny & attractive, instead of waiting around for him to come across my profile and *fingers crossed* send me a message.
Why I didn’t decide to do this sooner is beyond me.
I’m a confident woman that knows what she wants. I don’t hold back when trying to accomplish life goals, so why have I been taking a backseat to my love life, hoping a guy will make the first move?
Aren’t the odds better of me finding what I want if I’m the one doing the picking, instead of waiting around for a guy to pick me out of a bunch of other profiles on an online dating site?
I think I’ve bitched enough about not getting emails from men who interest me.
It’s my turn to choose who I want to chat with.
Sure it may be more culturally acceptable for a guy to make the first move, but I say “FUCK THE POLICE!”
It’s the 21st century, damn it. I’m a motherfuckin’ empowered lady.
In addition to that, there’s also the fact that if a woman like me on an online dating site filled with thousands of other women looking for love doesn’t write that hottie of a lawyer, he may never realize I exist.
So after a little procrastination yesterday I decided to message that hottie of a lawyer. I figured I had nothing to lose … that at best, I’d have some new blog fodder, and at worst, he wouldn’t write back.
Except, he responded today.
So polish your lady balls, women. It seems some dating rules were made to be broken.