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Apr
08

Shut Your Whore Mouth And Stop Obsessing Over Why He’s Not Into You

As a woman, I tend to spend a significant amount of time wondering why certain men that come into my life just aren’t that into me.

Or if they are initially into me and things don’t work out I just HAVE to try to figure out why.

Do you ever find yourself questioning what went wrong?

Are you wondering why he hasn’t called?

Do you too repeatedly ask yourself what YOU could have done differently to get a man to fall in love with you?

We really need to stop that crap because those questions are bullshit. Why? Because they’re all about giving someone else what they want.

What do YOU want? That’s what REALLY matters.

While you’re sitting there wasting time trying to fill in the blanks of why he didn’t call, spending hours creating answers in your head that most likely aren’t true, that guy is out there having a good time – and you should be too!

Once you stop obsessing you’ll probably realize that guy you’ve been driving yourself batshit crazy over wasn’t the right fit for you anyway.

I recently threw myself into a tizzy over the 23-year-old hottie I went on what I thought was a pretty kickass date with, only to never hear from him again.

I’ll admit that was a major blow to my self esteem since he was more than ten years younger than me. Rationally I knew the chances of a real relationship with a 23-year-old working out were slim – we’re both in completely different places in our lives – but having a younger guy pursue me made me feel pretty damn sexy and like I still had it.

When he stopped texting and calling it left me second-guessing my MILF status, even though deep down I know I totally am one.

Then last week I found myself obsessing over the fact that a male friend of mine found me cute enough to bang, but wasn’t into me enough to actually take the time to date me. We have a lot in common and were physically attracted to one another – you’d think that would be enough reason to pursue a meaningful relationship – yet for whatever reason he’s not into me that way.

I’m a pretty confident woman, but hearing him say he just wasn’t that into me hurt and left me wracking my brain for several days trying to figure out why.

At a certain point I decided to stop torturing myself with the Whys and instead thought about what I want. When I did I realized neither of the above men are it.

My wise friend Dr. Leah once told me that “Rejection is protection” and she’s right. As women, we’re sometimes blinded by our desire to feel loved – so much so that we all too often bend ourselves like a pretzel for a man in order to get it.

But nothing good ever comes of changing yourself to give someone else what they want. Every single one of my past relationships has ended because I was so focused on figuring out how to give someone else what they wanted I forgot about what I wanted.

Healthy relationships are about two people coming together to both get what they want. So the next time you find yourself sinking into the Whys, check yo’self before you wreck yo’self.

If a guy is right for you, you won’t be sitting around wondering why he suddenly got distant – because he wouldn’t.

“There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.”

So shut your whore mouth and stop obsessing over why he’s not into you.

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3 comments

  1. Brad says:

    Hellz Yeah!!

  2. Amanda Jillian says:

    Just not worthy of your amazing awesomesauce is all. ^.~

  3. Alena says:

    I feel like it’s easy to get caught up in being marketable and being someone someone wants to date, that I forget to make sure the person I am talking to and dating is someone *I* want to date. And then when/if they reject me I obsess about it, but really…they weren’t even guys I was ever really wanting to be with.

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