A friend of mine mentioned seeing an offensive “Kids Need Both Parents” bumper sticker today on Facebook:
So, the “kids need both parents” bumper sticker really pisses me off. Especially when the couple proudly sporting this bumper sticker were not only fighting in public, but also had some of the most questionable parenting skills I have ever seen. Not to mention 3 screaming, bratty kids running around the parking lot with no shoes on.
Seems legit. High and mighty assholes. ugh.
As a single mom I was immediately outraged by the idea of anyone being idiotic enough to support such a message.
Sure a child growing up with two parents in the same household is ideal, but shit happens.
Should I have stayed in a relationship with a man who repeatedly cheated on me because “kids need both parents” ?
What kind of example would that have been setting for my son? What kind of man would he become thinking that sort of behavior was acceptable and that it was OK to disrespect a woman in such a way?
I’d never even heard of the bumper sticker before so I decided to Google it to see what it actually looked like.
And here it is…
My Googling skills also revealed that there is a whole site dedicated to it and apparently they give it away for free…
That revelation threw me into a further tizzy and so I posted the link to the site to my own Facebook wall asking people to support me in giving the bumper sticker and the people behind the site the middle finger.
And then one of my much saner friends chimed in with this comment:
wait, am I missing something here? after my first gut reaction sent my blood boiling, i quickly skimmed their mission site, they seem to be promoting Co-parenting and working together post-divorce etc.. for the children….this is a bad thing? am i reading wrong?
Well apparently I’m just an asshole.
While my reaction as a single mom and the reaction of other single moms clearly shows that the marketing team behind this Kids Need Both Parents bumper sticker and site needs to be fired, the right sentiment is there.
But like I said earlier, in an ideal world every child would grow up with parents who love each other and live in the same home, or who at least can be civil enough to put their differences aside and work together to co-parent when they live apart, but life does not always work that way.
The best any parent can do is their very best, whether their kid has both parents or not.